There are times that writers put little bits of themselves into their work. You may not even realize you have done this. I didn’t until one time my sister pointed out the tiny little aspects in my work that came from my own personal experiences. Maybe it’s a little bit of family history. A wound from the past. Or one of my personal favorites, a dream that has spawned a book plot or character.
I am very much guilty of doing this. While editing my work, I sometimes find that I have written some of my own feelings. Weaving them carefully so that they are hidden in plain sight.
I have gone through a lot through the course of a year. A friend of mine encouraged me to use those emotions to my advantage. Use them to better my writing. All of that has really worked out for the best. I still struggle with the hurt, but I’m determined to not let it get the better of me. All of this helped me to learn more about myself, more about others, and more about my writing. It was a hard lesson to learn, but it was for the best for me.
The next time your feelings have been hurt, don’t let what they did eat away at you. Use it to your advantage. Enjoy writing your emotions.